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Still, introverts, especially men, who Hartman and Cain agreed face different expectations than women, may find it difficult to ask out someone they've been messaging."That’s a lot to ask for someone who’s introverted, especially in an area already outside of his comfort zone," Hartman said.“Most of the fears that people have, that fear is over as quickly as they do it," she said.
“If you’re at home reading Tolkien, you’re not a fun person," Hartman said facetiously.
"I think people would not be honest about that kind of stuff, and they should be honest.” Hartman advises that people identify as introverted through their Myers-Briggs type, because many people are familiar with the indicator and may know a loved one who's similar.
Hartman said the key to feeling comfortable is to focus on making the other person feel the same. "Try to meet people partway and if it feels nerve-wracking, don’t focus on your own feelings of discomfort. That’s the backwards irony of all this: They’re so focused on their own feelings.
If they focus on making others feel comfortable, they’ll feel comfortable, too.” Not getting enough out of a conversation — or worse, waiting for a message — can be a sign that two people don't share the same communication style.
Likewise, niche dating websites, such as those for book lovers and science fiction nerds, are appealing though not as well-populated.